Thinking And Feeling Like A Man.

Us menfolk tend to place our thoughts and emotions into separate compartments, a different box for each field of endeavour, romance, family, work, friendship, leisure, they all get filed and addressed individually. Our brains operate like a series of terrorist cells, each with it's own mission, avoiding the trail of evidence that constant communication produces. There is a leader, a common aim, but all the day to day activity takes place in individual compartments, separate from each other.

Women tend to see the whole, every thought and emotion is linked to and influential on the other. Neither option is better than the other, although popular culture would have you believe the male way is lesser, less emotional, less caring. The male way allows complete dedication to the task at hand, without confusion or distraction, it can appear uncaring when it is just delaying caring about one thing while it deals with another. I would prefer my brain surgeon to be working this way, think about his messy divorce proceedings later.

This difference is not a straight line, some men see the whole more than others, some women employ compartments more than others. I tend more to the feminine approach than most men, don't employ me as your brain surgeon. I've recently had dealings with a woman who thinks more in the masculine, the usual relationship confusion was just the reverse to the usual.

The modern denial of all things male has lead men to feel ashamed of the way they think. There is no rule that says the female approach is better. When she wants to discuss your relationship and you are deep in work don't feel bad that your brain can't address her topic immediately. You aren't incompetent or uncaring, you will address that topic at a time and place that suits both of you, not just her. The romance agenda is managed solely by women, they set the timetable and expectations. Don't fall for it, we both have a say in this life.

Exploring both ways of thinking is fun, and educational, like a kids television show. One enhances the other. Any artist will tell you that both inform their work. Both genders can learn from each other, enhance one another, instead of fighting each other for the dominant role.

Us menfolk work well when we place our thoughts and emotions in compartments. Evolution gave us this method, it created civilization and culture. Be open to other ways, never ashamed of being a man, thinking and feeling like a man.

Parkstreet.
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